Being single after a long relationship is kind of a weird experience.
I guess I should enter a little background on the relationship I am out now free from. Until October of last year, I had been in my very first real relationship. We had been dating a year at that point, 10 months of which we spent living together. I could go off on what an awful idea that was, but for now I'm going to focus on the events that have occurred since the break up, and less on the relationship itself.
Being single after a mildly abusive relationship that destroys your self-esteem is exciting... in that you have brief interest in several people before completely abandoning them. Can't say I didn't warn anyone, but I'm still a bitch. Of course, not at all rivaling the hedonistic ways of Chris, I can say there have been quite a few folks whose text messages I have stopped responding to in the last 6 months. I don't mean to be rude, but my lack of enthusiasm outweighs my politeness when it comes to texting.
Sorry guys. It's hard to keep my attention.
Although I recently started seeing someone whose affections haven't repulsed me (yes, this is an improvement) I'm still wary of the "relationship" thing. I'm fairly sure that I want to spend the summer single. Not for any pervy reasons, I'm just a huge stress-case when I'm in a relationship.
How do you late 20's-early 30's folks do it? The whole dating thing?
In television shows, men and women go on dates with several people in the same time period. And they all seem okay with this until things are officially monogamous.
You try to do that with folks in their early 20's and someone is bound to get offended and crazy jealous. That just isn't heard of these days. It's like if you go on one date with someone and are still somewhat interested, you have to see it through to the end before looking around more.
Now, I'm not saying I want to date around. I really don't have the patience for more than one person at the same time. I just thought it was sort of interesting.
I think that people my age are far too obsessed with falling in love. I don't want to fall in love again. All that mushy crap disgusts me anyway.
As a side note, though...
If I find someone who will be my player 2 in Altered Beast and play til we beat the damn thing, I will have found the person to spend my life with.
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
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I think I stopped being obsessed with love after I realized what it was doing to me while I was in it. That was almost two years ago; now I don't even know if I can see a viable upside to monogamy.
Yeah, it's important to share your deepest, most sincere feelings with one or at very most a handful of people in the course of a lifetime, but truthfully, I can't say that I had more fun being in love than I am now. In fact, I feel like I'm getting to know a lot of people on a deep personal level being in my current situation. And I don't just mean intimately (sexually). I'm even talking about some of my best male friends, with whom I've had the time to discuss really pressing issues, be they personal or worldly.
Us people in our mid-twenties and thirties (I'll put myself in the group at 23) seem to only experience a series of powerful things in our early twenties that present love as somewhat silly at times, and not the kind of thing you should be pining for at every waking moment.
I'm sure you'll get over this boy. I know you're not yet, and believe me, it's not easy to move past a first love. But when you do, you might discover some new versatility to yourself that is both endearing and really fucking exciting.
rrrise from your grave
I guess Jeffrey has won my heart! Chris gave me 4 paragraphs, JMax gave me one sentence.
But really, I don't plan on getting in a serious relationship for those reasons... I don't want to be focusing all my energy towards one person... because when I was in my previous relationship, the confines of it prevented me from getting to know people as well as I would've liked to. Not in a flirty sexy way, but just because spending a lot of time with someone who isn't your significant other while you're in a relationship is usually looked down upon.
I thank you for the positive thoughts regarding my ex, although I feel that every day I get more and more over. He's making it easy by showing what a huge douche he is. Although, now I don't think I will ever trust someone who says they love me.
I'm happy with who I am, the friends I have, and casual dating. I like to build deep friendships... who needs romantic love?
Better keep me bitter on relationships, or I might text you less, Chris.
What you're talking about is exactly why I keep only really attractive, really insightful female friends. We're all past the love thing, so we have lots of deep talks about it. And, if ever we feel neglected or horny, we just hook up and nothing negative comes of it.
That actually sounds a little sketchy, now that I'm reading it back.
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